MORE WAYS TO SAY "NO!" ASSERTIVELY...
SAY "NO" NICELY, BUT FIRMLY
Be respectful. Using put downs or sarcasm just makes the other person angrier.
DON'T ASK LOTS OF QUESTIONS
Questions raise people's hopes and give them the idea that i they give you the right answers, you just might say, "Yes." Then when you finally get up the courage to say no, they're even MORE disappointed and upset.
BE HONEST AND DIRECT
It isn't necessary to get into a long discussion. You don't even have to give an explanation. The only person you really need to answer to is yourself.
YOU are the only one responsible for your actions.
Can you think of a situation in which you wish you had said "NO" assertively? If so, remember this......
You deserve to be proud of the decisions your make. If others make it hard for you to make good ones, perhaps they aren't really your friends.
Learning to be assertive when saying "NO" is like learning to ride a bike or play the guitar. The more you practice, the easier it gets.
Lesson Progress
- Introduction to Decision Making
- The 3 D'S of decision making
- Decide, act, and evaluate
- Try the 3D's approach on these scenarios
- Peer Pressure
- How can peer pressure be positive?
- Negative Peer Pressure
- So what does this all mean ?
- How to handle negative peer pressure
- Other things to try
- How to be assertive and say no
- More ways to say no