Arguments are a part of life. Someone will always disagree with you. It is essential to learn how to get along with others regardless of viewpoints. We will always have varied political views, opinions about school, family dramas, and more. Life is messy, and the point is to get passed those minor squabbles to focus on the big picture, that connection is the beautiful thing about life. We thrive on being with loved ones, family, friends, and acquaintances.

Being able to work through problems together is the best way to move forward in all relationships. We can have the best intentions, but conflicts will always happen. In order to work through these, it becomes necessary to learn to remain calm, listen, communicate, and create a solution.

CALM

Arguments usually get heated and out of hand. If that happens, or better yet, before it happens, make a point to return to a calm state of mind. We are better prepared, more logical, and process better in a state of calm. If you need to take a deep breath, walk away for a few moments, or listen to a quiet song before proceeding, do so.

LISTEN

Even though it sounds so simple, listening is an art. It takes patience to be able to give someone your full attention without fail. Even harder with someone who might disagree with you. Practice listening skills by mirroring what they say. Repeat their words back to them. It shows you are listening and interested in what they have to say.

COMMUNICATE

After you have done your fair share of listening, it’s time to express feelings mutually. Now that you are in a calm state of mind, it is much easier to share together. Avoid playing the blame game. Ask questions. Use your kind words.

SOLUTION

After you have both said your peace, time to create a solution. Is it okay to agree to disagree? Can you compromise? Try reaching a middle ground between both stories or ideas. Remember, if you ever need to apologize, do so. Being kind and respectful is the best way to go about conflict resolution. Don’t hesitate to ask an adult or trusted family member for help.